It’s 2017, and it’s early, most people I suspect are still asleep having been up at midnight to welcome in the new year. Me? I was asleep at 10 p.m., and that was a late night! And I’m ok with that. I’m thinking this morning about what’s ahead for the year as I’m sure a lot of people are. Resolutions, goals, plans…lots of energy around the fresh start to the year.
But the thing is, I’m the same person today as I was at 10 p.m. last night. News flash, so are you. So often we use the beginning of the year to set new plans…like the wave of people who will be at the gym tomorrow morning. The initial excitement we have for the plans can quickly die off…and by February the gym will be back to the regular crowd. Sometimes we set the goals with the best of intentions but we’re the same person, so sustaining doesn’t always happen.
What if it could be different? What if instead of setting goals that are lofty and that do little more than set us up to feel like failures when we don’t keep going, we took a different approach. Play with me for a minute on this. Take a going to the gym and think for a minute why you might make that a goal. Maybe you think of things like losing weight or improving your health.
Now think a little deeper. Losing weight or improving your health? Those are outcomes but if you think of it from a different perspective, those outcomes result in feeling happier, healthier, having more confidence, being able to play with your children, going on adventures…fill in the blank with what it is for you. Aren’t those feelings and actions really what you want?
I would challenge you and say that those feelings, those actions are really what your goal is. When we focus our attention on the strategy, in this case, going to the gym every day, and then don’t, we feel like we failed and tell ourselves all kinds of negative lies about what that must mean about us. And we postpone what is truly our goal, the feeling healthier, happier, confident. We live in a state of “I’ll feel that way when…” or “I can do that if…”
I would say, what’s stopping you? Why can’t you feel healthier, happier, and confident now? Why can’t you go on adventures now? What really holds you back from doing those things now? Nothing.
My challenge to you, to me, for 2017, is to dig deeper and flip your goals around. Look at how you want to feel, the experiences you want to have, the life you a
re conditioning on other actions – like going to the gym. You can have and be those things now, without conditions or waiting. Make a choice to step into 2017 knowing that you can have those feelings you want now. The rest of it will happen as a result of you embracing what is already inside you.
I look forward to sharing a brave, full life with you this year!