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Silencing loudest voice

youarenotaloneThe other day, I had some pictures taken for a project I’m working on. The amazing photographer I worked with, Meredith (http://mercarty.com/) and I spent a lot of time talking during the 3 hour shoot. I’d previously worked with Meredith through a group that held workshops for women, and which offered some coaching in the process.

I told her about my coaching business and ask we were talking, mentioned that I’d also been working with a nutritional psychology coach (www.lolonutrition.com ).  As she positioned me for one of the shots, she had me twist a ring around on my finger. I told her that ring is something I bought when my good friend and peer coach told me to get something to remind myself to “be nice” to me since I was so hard on myself. I told her how my coach and I had been working on my internal dialogue about my body and what a lifetime battle that had been. Meredith echoed that she had the same battle with her internal voice.

And it occurred to me that, as women, we often think our struggle with the internal dialogue is ours alone. It doesn’t come to our minds that other women struggle with the very same thing. That’s just a big lie! It keeps us isolated in our struggle and without the support of the very people we need. And sometimes we even judge those other women, thinking they have it all together, or that they could never relate to us. In fact, they may share the same internal pain. That makes me sad, makes my heart hurt.

What would it take for women to feel like they could share their internal struggles, the things they say to themselves when they’re feeling down, with others who’ve felt their pain? Who’ve looked in the mirror and immediately said things to themselves that they would never say to anyone else. The thought of having that kind of group, encouraging others, and myself, through the struggle, brings me joy. That’s what I want to focus on in my coaching practice. The worst thing we can do for ourselves is think we’re alone. We’re not.

I challenge you to take a step with me. When you hear inner voice, the things it says to you, pay attention. Don’t automatically believe it. Question the truth of what is said, challenge it. Like I was encouraged to do, find something, some object, that reminds you to be nice to yourself.  Those mean things we say to ourselves, we need to take steps to change that. We are unique, amazing, beautiful women in all of our shapes and sizes and we need to embrace that.

Starting today, take time to love yourself. Think about something you love about yourself and appreciate that, cherish it. Pay attention to the compliments people give you and believe them. Don’t dismiss those encouraging words. You were made exactly as you are for a reason, embrace it, and embrace you!

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Body love and happiness

body loveIs this a rant? Let’s say no, because a rant sounds so, well, negative. Instead let’s say I been feeling strongly about this topic. The other morning, I had the TV on watching the news while I got ready for work. A commercial came on that I’d seen dozens of times. It opens with “What do you hate about your body?” The ad then goes on to detail woman after woman who didn’t like their face, their arms, you name it, they didn’t like it. But, the ad promised, there’s a solution! A solution that will make you feel amazing, transform your life! And went on to talk about plastic surgery.

This is one of dozens of ads that I’ve seen asking the same thing. Though the ads sometimes target men too, they’re primarily aimed at women. Fast forward to a conversation I had with a friend the other day who told me she was going to a plastic surgeon for a face lift consultation. Her mother was giving her a facelift for her birthday and told her, “wouldn’t you like to look better now instead of doing it when you’re older and don’t have as long to enjoy it?”

What makes me sad, and a little bit angry, is that there is such a focus on body image and acceptance of the idea that by changing a physical aspect of ourselves, our lives will be magically transformed. We’ll feel amazing, have more confidence, have more fulfilling lives, make more money, meet the man of our dreams.

But it’s a lie.

What would it look like to accept our bodies as they are? To embrace our bodies, our faces, our extra skin, whatever it is. To shift the focus from what’s wrong to all the things that are right. To celebrate our bodies and get comfortable in our own skin? Last night I started to make a crack to my husband about my own body and my recent lack of ab exercise. The extra skin on my belly I attribute to my first son who I was convinced, while he was in the womb, loved fried chicken and chocolate cake, so who was I to deny him. But I stopped and instead said my belly skin was good because “I grew humans in this body.”

Now, I know there are medical reasons for plastic surgery and support that. There can also be reasons related to disease management or body function. Those aren’t the body changes I’m talking about.

I’m concerned about the idea that by getting a facelift or tummy tuck or whatever it is, your life is going to be magically transformed into the one of your dreams. Chances are, it’s not. That’s like chasing a moving target.

If you want to feel better, happy, whatever it is, what stops you from doing it now? All the things promised by the countless surgical and non-surgical options for changing your body, you can have those without medical intervention. Or without endless diets or workouts. Those qualities, they come from inside you. They are a choice.

Wait for the external solution…

Or find the one inside of you…

The challenge I pose for you today is to think about your body. Think about the amazing things it has done for you. If you don’t already, think of it like a close friend. Love on it. The aspects in your life you’re waiting on for your body, your weight, whatever, to be “right,” I believe you can have those things now. I’m not saying exercise or being healthy isn’t good, it IS good, but it’s not necessarily going to change your mindset.

If you want to be happier, think about what makes you happy. Write it down. Then write down three things you’ll commit to this week that move you towards happy. Then do it.

If you’re not sure where to start, feel stuck or challenged with finding what you desire in life, I’m here to help. Find me at bbravecoaching…I’m here…sharing my brave journey with you.

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Steps to trusting myself…

Goodbye ScaleI gave away my scale this week. Unceremoniously taking it to Goodwill and saying goodbye.  Big deal you might be saying. I get that. Let me give you a little backstory.

I’ve always looked at other women who I think are thin with envy. For the last probably 35+ years of my life, every…single…morning the first thing I had to check on was my weight. Was it ‘good’? If it was good, then so was my day. If it wasn’t, that’s how my day started, frustrated, annoyed with myself. My internal voice was on overdrive. I ate too much. I didn’t exercise enough. Today I would do better.  On what I considered to be a good day, I was elated, quickly replaced by trying to replicate everything I did the day before so I could be good again tomorrow.

During the day, every time I ate was an opportunity to determine if I was doing good, if I was making the right choices. If I ate a cookie, I’d pray that I wouldn’t see the impact the next morning. Nothing was eaten without having weighed out the consequence in my mind. I had my ‘approved’ list of foods, ones that in some convoluted way I’d determined would not have a negative impact on the next day’s weigh in. Eating was largely a source of anxiety, judgement, by myself or others (in my mind).

And I was exhausted.

I started working with a coach because I wanted a solution to why my nearly 50 year old body felt like a magnet to weight. In reality, I’d probably been too thin and my body was getting back to where it should have been, I see that now. But then, I was frustrated and wanted the magic bullet.

So boy was I surprised when she told me to stop stepping on the scale, stop counting calories, stop weighing and measuring my food.  But how would I know how I was doing? How would I know if my weight was acceptable? The answer? My body. Look in the mirror. My body would tell me by how I felt. Uhhhhhh…that’s what my scale did. But not anymore.

In the beginning, I struggled. But it got easier. And the more time passed, the more I started to feel in touch with my body. I noticed when things I ate made me feel strong, and what I ate that didn’t. I started appreciating the way other women looked, at all shapes and sizes and really noticed when they appeared to be comfortable in their own skin. Whether they were or not, I don’t know, but they appeared that way.  And I appreciated them. As I did, I started to get more comfortable with myself.

Last week, my husband’s scale called to me one morning and I listened. And stepped on. My reaction was, huh. I didn’t get too tied up in it, but as the day went on, I found myself thinking about it, over and over, and the same mental game started again.

That did it.

Later that day, I took my scale to Goodwill and said goodbye. Forever. It was freeing and scary all at the same time, but I did it. The thing about the scale is that it was telling me what to think about myself instead of trusting my own body, my own intuition about myself.

The unfortunate part is, I know I’m not alone. The scale may not be your thing, but you may have one. That external thing that tells you how to feel about yourself, about your body, about the kind of mother, or wife, or friend you are. I’d suggest that you already know those answers. If you listen to yourself, to your intuition, you know. And you can trust that. No other person, or magazine, or scale, or whatever that thing is, knows your story, lived your story, been through your life and all that has brought you to where you are today. Only you. You are unique. And you are amazing. But you don’t have to listen to me, you already know that.

My coach launched me on my journey. If you’d like to talk to a coach about taking the journey for yourself, I’d love to work with you, that’s what the Be Brave part is all about. Helping you find your amazing self, because sometimes, you have to be brave to get there.

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Your true Yes

True SelfThough I am in recovery, I am a pleaser. I aim to make people happy.  If I think a decision I’m making will result in negative feedback from someone else, I’m thinking twice about it. As a result, I often say yes easily. Now, I truly do like helping people, but my automatic yes sometimes results in the voice in my head asking, in a whiny voice, “why?”

This week though, was asked by someone I’d worked with doing some freelance work could refer me to a colleague. Within minutes, I was writing out the response text to say “sure, thanks for asking.” But then I stopped. I started thinking about the kind of work I’d done with them in the past and how that wasn’t what I wanted to be doing. Could I do it? Yes. But want to? No. And so, after thinking and praying about it, the next morning I wrote him and declined, referring them instead to a former colleague who specializes in that type of work. And it felt great!

Before I made the decision, I felt anxious, nervous about saying no, but once I did, once I was true to myself, I felt free. Later in the week, I was involved in a situation by default and the discussion was around a topic that I’d rather not think about for hours on end. It was necessary, but negative, draining, and I could feel the uneasiness in my stomach all day. In that case, I didn’t have a choice. But in many cases, I do, you do.

Think about it this way. Those things you really love to do, you do with all your heart. Could be something creative, could be cleaning, cooking, or golf, skiing, cycling, or swimming, or maybe you work on cars, or are a collector…only you know what that thing is, but when you’re doing it, it’s your jam. You lose track of time. For me, it’s being creative, and it’s engaging with others and helping them move their lives forward, whether it be at home or at work. When I’m in that space, I’m in it with all my heart. I’m engaged, and focused.

It’s my sweet spot.

What I’ve learned is that the greater degree to which I can stay in the sweet spot, the better results I’m going to have.  AND, the more focused and productive I’ll be. Think about it for yourself. Do you know your sweet spot? If you do, what percent of your day are you spending in that space? And if you’re not spending a lot of time there, why not?

If you don’t know your sweet spot, you have a unique opportunity. One which could lead you to feel like you’re all in, engaged, and creating a fulfilling life. I know that, for me, I’ve spent too much time trying to please others, and saying yes when I really want to say “heck no.” And it’s not about only doing what I want, or what I’m good at. It’s about being in that sweet spot where I know I’m using gifts that I’m meant to be using. My own ‘special sauce.’ So if you’re still looking…not quite sure what the sweet spot feels like, saying yes when you want to say no, spend some time on it, dream.  If you need a little help, or guidance on your journey, that’s what I’m here for, it’s my sweet spot.

 

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Who do you love?

Give love away

Sometimes, a person can say something to me that I’ve heard before, but for some reason it finally sinks in. That’s the space I’m in the last couple days. Friday, I was meeting with my coach and we were talking about loving yourself, accepting yourself. Seems easy, but for some (hand raised) it can be tough. We talked about how you can’t give away something you don’t have, or don’t own. Hold that thought and fast forward with me to yesterday.

Wanderlust is a festival that I’ve heard about for a few years. It’s a ‘mindful’ triathlon – 5k, yoga, meditation. Then you can participate in a variety of other activities, acro yoga, hooping, workshops, throughout the day. It was amazing! One of the things our yoga instructor talked about (think about hundreds of people doing yoga together – so much positive energy!) was self-love. She echoed the same idea I had talked about with my coach – you have to love yourself, have a good relationship with yourself, in order to love others well, to give away love.

I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I felt as though I was getting confirmation of an area I need to focus on. In order to truly love well, you have to know what it’s like to feel love for yourself. Same is true for self-compassion. If you don’t give yourself compassion, realizing that you’re not perfect, and that’s ok, how are you going to be compassionate to others?

That’s one that I could really relate to. I’ve held myself to ridiculous standards and beat myself up when I fall short. Truth is though, no one else holds me to standards as high as I do. And I’ve been working on it. Being kinder to me. And it’s incredibly freeing, which allows me to show up stronger because I’m not as worried about making mistakes, or falling short.

So why do I bring all this up?

Sadly, I know I am not alone in having issues with self-love, self-acceptance and self-compassion. It’s not something people like to talk about. I can only speak for women and I know for many, it’s an issue that is exacerbated by comparison, by expectation, or by whatever has compounded it for you. I know it can be an issue for some men too, but I’m not equipped to speak about their journey. So to my female tribe – my friends, and even those I may not know, I get you.

I have to keep hearing the message, but it is sinking in. I’m thankful for that and share the message with all of you. Love yourself. You are with you all the time, don’t you want to hang out with someone you love and enjoy?

I set an intention during our yoga yesterday and carry it through today, love myself. And now I send it out to all of you.

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On Judgement

As I write tDon't Judge Othershis, it’s a rainy, Easter, afternoon. I have had a few things rolling around in my head this weekend that I wanted to talk about.  When I was in the iPEC coaching certification program, we had foundation principles. One that really stuck out to me was, “True awareness is related to our lack of judgement.” As I went through class and beyond, I really thought about that and became aware of the times I would judge myself and others. I’ve tried to stop the judgement, but sometimes, I’ve found it’s so ingrained, I don’t even see it coming.

I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s, the era of big hair and rail thin models. The hair I got over but the rail thin stuck with me and I’m only recently (and with help) coming out of the self-comparison and striving that came from that “ideal” of the female body. My self judgement has often been around the “not thin enough” theme. And it is not difficult to find encouragement for that. There’s a constant barrage of media that would still say you’re not thin enough, or not muscular enough, maybe you don’t eat right, or not enough carbs, or protein, or fat, or… the list could go on and on. I have really started to grab hold of the movement to get away from all that. To encourage women to love themselves as they are. How God made us.

But Saturday, I was working out in the hotel gym where I was staying. I saw this woman diligently working out, first the elliptical and then weights. The straight up truth is that I looked at her and thought, “you’re working out so hard, what are you eating that has you overweight?” You see, she was a little heavy set. In that moment, I stopped. All of a sudden it hit me, I was projecting my own vision – the vision I’m trying to change – of what fit and “thin” looks like, on to her! I was struck by how incredibly wrong that was, and I haven’t been able to get it out of my head.

So what, if anything, does this have to do with it being Easter? In a way (and this is by no means a theological discourse, it’s my thoughts…) Jesus’ death was about judgement. He was judged by the very people that he had come to save. He didn’t judge anyone. In fact, He encouraged us to NOT judge others. That’s not our job. But He was judged. He was ridiculed. And why? Partially because those who opposed Him didn’t understand Him, the things they saw as important, He questioned. And it made them have fear. So they looked for ways to judge Him, which ultimately lead to His death. His death and resurrection lead to the promise of redemption for the world, as it was promised, but they had no right to judge and neither do we.

Judgement often comes from a place of insecurity. Often, we reflect in judgement those things that, in reality, we don’t like about ourselves. We see things in others that we may be blind to in us.  “…why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own?” Matt. 7:3. Today, on Easter, my challenge to you is to start paying attention to the times when you judge.  Notice, and then think about what quality, or belief system, you hold that led you to judge and take a look at that. Although I got tripped up the other day, I’m working on being aware of when judgement creeps in.  It’s a journey, as I develop awareness of myself, the judgement lessens. I guarantee you, it creates feelings of compassion towards others – give it a try – then tell me about it, I’d love to share in your story.

 

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Pause

I’m in a sSlow Down and Breatheeason right now where I’m really busy at work. From the time I get there until I leave, it’s jam packed with fairly complex situations I’m navigating through. Not all those situations are puppies and kittens, some are hard, and heavy, and challenging. I’d go as far as to say some have a negative vibe. And as I’ve gotten older, I find I’m more in touch with the emotional side of myself, which means these situations leave a mark. I feel them, am impacted by them. I notice that impact more as time goes on.

As I stared at the bottom of the pool yesterday, doing my laps, I was thinking about the impact of negative energy. Negative energy can come from a lot of sources. I’m not saying my work situations are all negative, because they’re not. I get to do a lot of amazing work, work that helps people. But some of it is, we all have that. Negative energy is a powerful force, it’s draining, contracting, distracting. The truth is, it’s far more powerful than positive energy, so even a small amount of negative energy can overshadow the positive.  Think of it this way. If you made some guacamole, and you dropped in a small amount of oil from a ghost pepper, just a small amount, your entire batch would be ‘burn your mouth off’ hot.  You perhaps wouldn’t enjoy the creamy goodness that is guacamole. Negative energy is the same way, it takes over the positive.

This fact was glaring me in the face as I swam because, in the midst of a few negative situations, I have some amazing things happening in my life. I recently became a certified professional coach and my certificate came in the mail the other day, that was awesome. And, oh, my ex-husband and I have reconciled and are getting married again next Friday, yeah, that. If that isn’t over the moon positive and worth being a little more than excited about, I don’t know what is. But I realized I wasn’t sitting in that space. I was distracted by the negative energy. We went to get our marriage license the other day and had to rush through it because I had to get back for a meeting, he had stuff too, but I think I put more pres
sure on myself to get back.  Yes, we did have to hang out while they prepared our license, but, man, celebrating that would have been great.
And that’s on me, and it’s on you, whenever we allow the busyness, the negative, to overshadow the positive, the joy, the celebration. That’s the awareness that struck me in the midst of my swim, and it’s one I don’t want to let go of. So I’m going to pause. Take a breath. Prioritize. Work on leaving the negative energy for God to work out instead of holding it in. What will you do? What steps will you take to hold space for the positive, to fiercely protect it and ensure it isn’t overshadowed? Write them down, have someone hold you accountable, whatever it take. Do it because if you don’t may be letting the joys of life pass you by.

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Taking care of myself

empty-cupYesterday I was going to drive up to Incline Village and connect with my good friend from coaching class.  I was super excited and looking forward to spending time with her. But, of course there’s a but…back up to yesterday morning and that’s where my dilemma began.

Got up Friday, had a great swim, at home getting ready for work. bent over in the shower to shave my legs, as I do every day, and…wait a minute…I felt a twinge in my back. For those of you this happens to, you know what I’m talking about. That twinge where you know if you’re not careful, your back is going out. I say going out, I actually don’t know if that’s what happens. What I do know is that it’s like the muscles and nerves in my lower back tie themselves up in a knot and make me barely able to walk upright. Plus the bonus of pain. I stopped. Carefully I stood up and thought I’d be ok, narrowly escaped that time.

But I wasn’t. As the morning went on, it got worse and worse. I was worried how it would be in the morning when I was going to sit in the car for two hours. I used heat that night, stretched it and prayed I’d wake up recovered. Nice try. I woke up and thought I’d been beaten up in my sleep. I met a friend for coffee early and could barely sit without pain. In my mind, I still wanted to go to Incline, body be damned. This is where I started to have awareness.

Arguably, my back was (and still is) pretty bad off. On the flip side, I wanted to see my friend, I’d committed to coming up and seeing my friend. When I say I’m going to do something, it’s important to me to follow through and do it. I tend to think I’m not responsible if I don’t follow through. It’s a feeling I struggle with, it goes against my value of being responsible. Particularly when someone else is involved, it’s tough. In the past, I’ve let that overshadow my own wisdom, or what my body is telling me.  With my body, I feel like I should just “suck it buttercup,” and move forward. And by and large, I’ve done that. I survived but I’m fairly sure my body did not thank me.

Yesterday something different happened. There I was, doing mental somersaults trying to decide if I should stay home and rest my back, or drive to see my friend, which in all likelihood would aggravate my back. I realized that I was really the only one holding myself to that high standard and feeling like I would be irresponsible and a bad friend if I didn’t follow through. I was putting my idea of being responsible above my own self-care.  So, still struggling, I reached out to my friend, she actually encouraged me to stay home, and I did. She completely understood.

I know this happens to me fairly often, but I wonder how often it happens to you? You ignore your inner wisdom, or the way your body is telling you to slow down because you need to be “responsible”, whatever that means for you. I really only took a baby step yesterday but if this is a struggle you have, could you take a baby step too? Make a commitment to yourself, and find someone who can help hold you accountable. You’ll find that making self-care a priority is not only worth it, but it will make you stronger and more able to follow through with those things and people that are important in your life.

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Making Choices

light at nightThere was a period in my life where I rode my bike, a lot. During that time, I also had kids in junior high and high school. So being at home in the evenings with them after work was really important to me. Given there are only so many hours in the day, I chose to ride in the morning. If you back up being at work by 8ish, plus time to get ready, and the fact that I rode around 2 hours in the morning, it doesn’t take much to do the math and see that I was riding VERY early, pre-dawn, in the dark.  It’s not a big deal to ride in the dark, but you need a light so you can see, and be seen.

Off I went to my local bike shop to get a light. I looked around, found a reputable brand and bought a light, for about $30.  I felt like that was good enough, rationalized that I could afford it since money was tight.  Once I was out in the dark, it quickly became apparent that my light was weak at best. My eyes adjusted to the darkness and I could see, sort of, but I was no bat.  How visible I was to cars is unknown, but I’m writing this so we know I must have been visible enough.

Round two, I decide I need a different light, more visibility, my non-bat eyes missed stuff, meaning I likely narrowly missed more than one accident.  Back to the bike shop, more money, better light. Let’s ignore the fact I had to use one of my bottle cages for the battery, it was brighter. It was more expensive, but still lower mid-range in the scheme of things. I felt like I’d done better by myself, gotten what I could afford, again, and it was good enough.

By then I was riding a lot more, climbing and descending long hills, in the dark, and only able to see about 20 feet in front of me, maybe wasn’t my greatest plan.  I made it work for a while, but after not too long, sucked it up and bought the more than $150 light. Now I could be seen by cars, my light was as bright as a car headlight, the next 200 feet were clear as day, no more near misses. Happy cyclist.

I was thinking about that decision making process.  Why didn’t I just jump to the higher end light in the first place? Most certainly I ended up spending more money along the way.  Of course that got me thinking of where else I do that in life. Where do I make short sighted decisions because they’re “good enough.” Sometimes I make those decisions because I get stuck. I see only limited choices, or I use measurements for what is “ok” that don’t really factor in everything that’s important.

Today I was in that cycle. Working with my coach on some business development ideas. Quickly it was evident that I was taking a narrow view of my options. She asked me “what if time and money weren’t an option, what would you do?” That opened up so much more. She helped me brainstorm a wide range of options that I had previously counted out, mainly because I thought, “can’t afford it.”  How often do you do that? Limit your own choices by boxing yourself in, applying narrow parameters instead of thinking outside the lines.

We can do that in many areas of life. If we believe there are limited choices, then we’ll make narrowly based decisions. Rather than seeking the huge, the awesome, the ideal, we take ok, safe, affordable. My challenge to me today, my challenge to you, is to look at decisions, look at where life is headed and ask “what if time and money weren’t a factor?”; or, more importantly “what is my heart telling me?” You might be amazed at your answer. From my own experience I can tell you, go big the first time, don’t take self-limited choices, buy the light. You’ll find so much more joy and enjoyment in the ride!

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What to do with self-awareness

Take-A-Small-Step-EverydayI’ve been thinking about self-awareness. The journey to self discovery that a lot of us go on at some point in our lives. Why we do it can be different for everyone. It could be a traumatic event, realizing that the way you interact in relationships isn’t working so well, feedback someone you care about gives you, breakups, health scares, turning…ahem…50…maybe, you get it, lots of reasons.

However you get there, here’s how it typically goes.  You realize that something isn’t working for you, for whatever reason.  So you start thinking about it. Maybe you journal about it. Talk to a trusted friend about it, or a family member…although the family member may be part of the issue, so you maybe you steer away from that…but you find a person, and you talk, you process.

As you go through processing, there are a lot of ways you can look at your situation.

Woe is me, my world is collapsing…

You could get angry…you’re being treated unfairly…it’s someone else’s fault

Maybe you start to understand but try to justify or rationalize what you’re working through

Or you could think about other people, wanting to change for them, to change their experience with you

You may get to a place where you work through your own issues and connect to others…maybe

These are some of the ways you might process.  And while awareness is awesome, you have to watch out for the snow snake. What?? The snow snake is something I remember from being a kid. You’re skiing down the hill, rock star, next thing you know, you’ve got a yard sale in the middle of the slope. Your skis are off, a tangled mess because you went down, hard. Not sure why? Must’ve been a snow snake…reached up and got you. That’s the thing with awareness, it’s important not to get stuck in it, not  get taken down by the snow snake and end up in a swirling mess, beating yourself up. Self-awareness, at the figuring out level is good, it’s healthy, it helps you work through issues, understand yourself, but it’s not a place to get stuck.

If you can take your awareness and use it to move yourself forward, to change and make your life better, or more fulfilling, make your relationships thrive, that’s the ticket. Awareness is great, it’s important, but you can be the most self-aware person in the world and still be unhappy, still feel stuck.  Instead, think about how you can use it to move yourself forward.

Think about where you want to be, your desired state of being, and how you’re going to get there.  What would be ideal? What’s acceptable? What’s in the middle? Create a plan around those. What can you do this week. Break it up into chunks. Want to improve your relationship with your partner? What’s one thing you can do this week? Making a shift in your career? Again, what’s that one thing you can do this week to move forward, and then build on that.

My challenge to you this week is move forward.  Take your healthy awareness, and look at where you want to see shifts in your life.  All you have to do to start changing is one thing. What will it be for you?